tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post4386536585375055886..comments2023-11-03T08:04:49.280-04:00Comments on Rambling Toward Clarity : Stuck But Good...Dianehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16637670293642285740noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-33362591919548811272009-04-30T07:11:00.000-04:002009-04-30T07:11:00.000-04:00I get stuck every now and again. It's very frustr...I get stuck every now and again. It's very frustrating to get out of a rut. Especially an engrained rut. Funny how even though you've thought one way all your life...and you KNOW that way of thinking is wrong, it's still hard to take those steps to get turned around. Isn't that odd? <br /><br />What's even worse is when you have family or friends STILL in the old line of thinking. Nothing worse than going it alone. But sometimes that's just the journey we must take. By ourselves. You'll figure it out. Eventually.<br />(btw, found you through Braja's -)sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07183605567090197137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-40273274427077666662009-04-29T16:47:00.000-04:002009-04-29T16:47:00.000-04:00Sorry, late for the party. Traffic.
Here's a choco...Sorry, late for the party. Traffic.<br />Here's a chocolate babka. :)<br /><br />So your first impression of me is going to b something I found in a fortune cookie.<br /><br />"The best way to find yourself, change yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others."<br /><br />I know that sounds so cliched, sooo refrigerator magnet but, it is true.<br /><br />The best advice usually is that simple.<br /><br />Peace - ReneAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088944123595868347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-3071239861198593782009-04-29T16:12:00.000-04:002009-04-29T16:12:00.000-04:00I have found such a lovely spirit in your words, I...I have found such a lovely spirit in your words, I am so glad I popped over from braja's, to see who it was, she was referring to...<br /><br />strangely, yesterday and today, yes, I publish my posts and then write them...sigh....I have talked much about how life has at times about killed me...what is left after the storm...come and comment, I left one for you so you owe me! ;) <br /><br />OK, I know you don't know me and I just read this comment but will leave it as it is because it says something of who I am...I do know one thing and that is I shall return to read more of your journey and hope you will join me in mine......<br />xoxox and many blessings...L'Adelaidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10725322054223364858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-74708004297474199922009-04-29T06:28:00.000-04:002009-04-29T06:28:00.000-04:00I came here via Braja. I posted about change yest...I came here via Braja. I posted about change yesterday as well Very coolAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14869448149679702821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-79135753477024350152009-04-28T21:42:00.000-04:002009-04-28T21:42:00.000-04:00Diane! I'm sorry I didnt comment when you first po...Diane! I'm sorry I didnt comment when you first posted this! You are always right there for me when I am flat on my ass! First one to comment and sometimes the ONLY ONE to comment! Afterall I am the QUEEN of life-altering events! You are undoubtedly one of my BEST Bloggy Friends...I cant write advice but I can tell you how much of a friend you are and what a great person and mother you are (Ryan is a GREAT child) and that I am here for you if you EVER want to talk on the phone, email, or text. I heart you!Kate P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16449065722698585220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-83421770683935697052009-04-28T16:02:00.000-04:002009-04-28T16:02:00.000-04:00Diane, in all the instruction I've had for coachin...Diane, in all the instruction I've had for coaching kids' soccer. The instructor always focused in four areas. The first (in what I think is the logical order) is the psychological aspect of the game. Your head and attitude are in the right place (you said you were and therefore I'll accept that) and that is the hardest part. The next facet of the game is fitness. The only reason I point this out is that when most people get fit (you help coach swimming and make sure you daughter works out and competes) they enjoy the game so much more. Now since we are not playing soccer, I'll throw the other two facets of the game out there but they don't so much apply here (but they might if we lok at them the right way). They are technique (performance of a skill) and tactics (decision making). I guess doing all the day in and day out things in life would be skills and which to do when and their order of priority could be tactical. But I digress. I think that if you focus some time on your own health and fitness, that you will enjoy the game much more. Because we all strut with a better step when we are shaking a tight booty, right!! Billy Crystal on SNL used to say, "It is better to rook mahvarous than to feel mahvarous! ANd baby, you rook mahvarous!"Stu Pidassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14229620467151429952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-88982825970446851112009-04-28T13:06:00.000-04:002009-04-28T13:06:00.000-04:00I think we all get stuck but come out of the other...I think we all get stuck but come out of the other side Diane. If somebody says that they haven't been..they must be lying!<br />I don't think that we can completely change, especially as we get older. A lot of it is about excepting that we do have a lot and at least can put our wanting into words. In a way we've got to brainwash ourselves. In a good, happy way of course, not a weird mooney, cult type way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-68844003234551359562009-04-28T10:35:00.000-04:002009-04-28T10:35:00.000-04:00You know Diane, the things you want to change will...You know Diane, the things you want to change will just happen. Don't think about it and slowly things start happening.<br /><br />Sort of.<br /><br />Your beautiful and smart and i love you!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13012277904032798697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-19009832321393356662009-04-28T10:03:00.000-04:002009-04-28T10:03:00.000-04:00On second thought, some of us simply struggle with...On second thought, some of us simply struggle with nightmares.Sometimes Sophiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10053598560687202583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-8513347307174330972009-04-28T10:01:00.000-04:002009-04-28T10:01:00.000-04:00We're all in the same boat, whether we admit it or...We're all in the same boat, whether we admit it or not, whether we ply the waters with crowbars or oars. We are what we think. Some of us are realists... and the lucky ones are dreamers.<br /><br />"Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it." - Irving Berlin<br /><br />Give up the thinking and concentrate on the doing. Choose wisely what you choose to do.Sometimes Sophiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10053598560687202583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-33512416623010464292009-04-28T06:45:00.000-04:002009-04-28T06:45:00.000-04:00you have to wonder what the world would be like if...you have to wonder what the world would be like if we all just quit thinking so much...Paulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14555472024981357622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-53222817774237700822009-04-28T04:59:00.000-04:002009-04-28T04:59:00.000-04:00Being stuck is hard; our conditioned natures tie u...Being stuck is hard; our conditioned natures tie us down soooo much. You're conscious of your good qualities, and that's good...being conscious of our lower nature is harder, because the ego is part of it and so we're reluctant to address it. If you're open, though, it is not difficult...I have tricks. Write me if you want ;)<br />xx♥ Brajahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693196044262677095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-27468927433314409302009-04-28T01:07:00.000-04:002009-04-28T01:07:00.000-04:00Let's go buy crowbars together. I could sure use ...Let's go buy crowbars together. I could sure use one,too. And shopping together is always better!hoorayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17760905479527589272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-81955245661638744532009-04-27T23:02:00.000-04:002009-04-27T23:02:00.000-04:00I know what you mean about being stuck...I'm stuck...I know what you mean about being stuck...I'm stuck in many ways. It kind of takes an emergency to get me to really makes changes. sad to say.<br /><br />And damn...I committed myself to read "Alice in Wonderland" and now I find out it is a vile piece of crap. Great.Jennershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044537551139633301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-2003480289012844532009-04-27T21:59:00.000-04:002009-04-27T21:59:00.000-04:00You have signed up for that breast cancer walk and...You have signed up for that breast cancer walk and I assume are walking a little every day to train for it? You may be surprised at how much you are changing in tiny, incremental ways because you have decided to focus on a goal outside of yourself. <br /><br />My months of self pity and--yes-- insomnia (doesn't insomnia suck?) melted away while I was training for a marathon.<br /><br />My other piece of advice? Get rid of stuff! (its ridiculous how cathartic throwing away an ugly pair of socks can be!)<br /><br />Oh....and I think you are great!hebbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11124266534675825838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-28498913330255966572009-04-27T21:21:00.000-04:002009-04-27T21:21:00.000-04:00I happen to love you as is, my dear, but change if...I happen to love you as is, my dear, but change if you must. I'll still be here... or there... or wherever you need me to be. <br /><br />Either way, Sunshine, either way.blognuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161713516407124717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-39740491054603549322009-04-27T19:27:00.000-04:002009-04-27T19:27:00.000-04:00Hell - just come and live with me. Everyone else ...Hell - just come and live with me. Everyone else does.Melanie Gillispiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18325977196312705838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-63265363539437576352009-04-27T18:51:00.000-04:002009-04-27T18:51:00.000-04:00I tagged you in my blog today.
I'm also stealing ...I tagged you in my blog today.<br /><br />I'm also stealing your Alice quote because it 100 percent explains how I am feeling today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-76989378955505617182009-04-27T18:17:00.000-04:002009-04-27T18:17:00.000-04:00Being a fatalist to some degree, I have never cons...Being a fatalist to some degree, I have never considered changing the way I think.<br /><br />Instead, when realizing my life was not going the way I wanted, I tried to fix it and when the situation was beyond fixing, I tried to change it. <br />Along the way, as I grew and evolved intellectually and emotionally, the people I met that challenged my thinking and the experiences I went through forced almost a natural alteration of certain standpoints and views. <br />I guess what I am trying to say (and failing, as it is really late here;) is that change should feel right and come naturally. When you are ready to change your thinking, it will happen - perhaps not without any effort, but the means how, will be very clear to you;)<br /><br />I think it is important to always keep an open mind and not to be afraid of a change, no matter how scary it might be. But then again to keep changing things all the time and never try to stick anything out is not healthy either. I guess as always, the talent is to know "when".<br /><br />Btw, I like your friend Todd's quote.:))Zuzanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02137958790178864561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-76676792866224067062009-04-27T17:53:00.000-04:002009-04-27T17:53:00.000-04:00Life is tiring, Diane, please don't beat yourself ...Life is tiring, Diane, please don't beat yourself up about not having the energy to change things, and baby steps is always the way forward - 10 minutes a day focusing on your goals gets you there in the end - Apparently... I haven't tried it yet - I'm good at procastinating...<br /><br />Can I ask you why you want to change, and what it is you wish to change, if you can share those?<br /><br />Reason for my asking is that we none of us are perfect... Nor should we try to make ourselves perfect, because women mostly all have a tendency to 'do ourselves down in life', to see ourselves as worse than we actually are... We have a very negative self-image for many reasons, and women tend to be good at doing the guilt-trip thing on ourselves...<br /><br />Can you use a knowledgeable, self-aware, intuitive friend as a life-coach, with their permission, to talk through what you want to change, and why - And ask them to be honest with you, and to help kick you up the backside if that is what you feel you need from them?<br /><br />They might also tell you what you do not need to change...<br /><br />As for me, I need for health reasons to get fitter and healthier... It's harder than it seems, even if you have the sword of Damocles over your head... We all tend to resist change, and we get stuck in habits and patterns (like mine of eating too much of the wrong things, and being pretty sedentary at work...)<br /><br />So, it isn't just you, Diane, it's many of us, but I love you how you are - That's the thing about soul sisters... And you know I shall love you whichever way you change, or no... xoxA Woman Of No Importancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02194976046531063422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-56688559412575222732009-04-27T16:52:00.000-04:002009-04-27T16:52:00.000-04:00Changing our thinking, changes our mood. That was ...Changing our thinking, changes our mood. That was the group topic from work today. But, I've been too tired to think, does that mean I'm too tired to mood?Sam_I_amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16556492217352199922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-72321247964894746682009-04-27T16:46:00.000-04:002009-04-27T16:46:00.000-04:00Here's my humble attempt at the crow bar- I can on...Here's my humble attempt at the crow bar- I can only speak from experience.<br /><br />I was also "stuck' as you call it. And back in the fall, (just prior to my starting my blogsite) I was thinking about all the things I had never done nor had any interest in exploring, and I literally FORCED myself to try and experience some of them.<br /><br />The first was the blog site- a HUGE feat for me as I was computer illiterate- now just computer SLOW. Learning things I thought I could never learn sparked something within me.<br /><br />I then ventured into exploring the ONLY music I never cared for...RAP. My sons took me on a journey of listening, and teaching me about some great rappers and I watched videos, read about them and listened to my sons opinions about them, and I will say, I came away with a great appreciation for something I thought I would never listen to.<br /><br />I'm trying it with new foods, and new friendships, the Harley riding, etc. There is SO MUCH out there to explore that I had been missing out on.<br />But I'm forcing myself to try things -not just the things that I want to try, but also things I think I would not enjoy. Just for kicks.Turns out, I've had a blast.<br /><br />It has been such as stretching time for me (including my job that I now love that was FULL of things I always thought I wouldn't like to do)but when you're stretched, you'll always GROW! (you can quote me on that).<br /><br />This past weekend, we took the Harley to THE GARDEN OF THE GODS here in So. Illinois- and I actually climbed rocks (another stretching as I am normally afraid of heights)- it never appealed to me before.<br />I had a blast! (I have pictures on my blog today)<br /><br />So my advice is much like Todd's- and it is working for me.<br /><br />Try some some you've never tried but were curious about- then try some things that really doesn't interest you just to see what all the fuss is about.<br /><br />Start with traveling to So. Illinois1<br /><br />We have a bunch of crow bars here!Sherri has a crow barhttp://matteroffactsite.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-49218388762947198762009-04-27T15:51:00.000-04:002009-04-27T15:51:00.000-04:00Oh, we've all been there. That moment in time whe...Oh, we've all been there. That moment in time where you're just stuck in a rut between utter chaos and primitively searching out a defining moment. Change is difficult business.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03651152524448168307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-32864231359788761432009-04-27T15:35:00.000-04:002009-04-27T15:35:00.000-04:00I could use a crowbar to help get me unstuck from ...I could use a crowbar to help get me unstuck from my same old same old actions and results. <br /><br />It's hard to change even if it's for the better. You aren't alone. Well, I can't speak for the world but you've got me (not sure if that helps) right there with you on this topic.Amy McMeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14020147028703666774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5422526707436212403.post-54558206679717761452009-04-27T15:22:00.000-04:002009-04-27T15:22:00.000-04:00You're not thinking of going all Republican on us,...You're not thinking of going all Republican on us, are you?<br /><br />I don't know what kind of changes you are thinking of making but maybe it would help to set goals. Tiny, baby step goals?<br /><br />I think a cheerleader is also essential - someone who really wants to see you succeed. I think finding one of those might be the hardest part.<br /><br />And so.... here I sit; NOT making any changes. <br />But good luck! I really mean that. Should we get our pompons out?Jane!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12804142964805900278noreply@blogger.com